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I love my second child more

Sketch of mum with two children

Have I ever told you that B is actually my second child?

Well, she is. And I hate to admit it, but I love her more. I would do ANYTHING for her. I find myself bending over backwards to make sure she has nothing but the best. Every day, she gets fresh fruit and vegetables. I try to make sure she drinks a lot too – lots of water. Got to keep her little brain and body hydrated for all that growing, after all.

I love her so much it hurts sometimes and I just have to tell her every day. It is so important to me that she knows she is loved. That she grows up knowing that she’s awesome and can do whatever she wants to in this life. She doesn’t get everything right first time – how could she? She’s learning every day and everything is new.

My first child? Well, I feel awful saying this, but when B was born she became second fiddle. I just got a bit tired of her. She was important to me, but I kind of neglected her a bit. I just didn’t love her as much…

It’s started to show recently, too. More than I’d care to admit. By the time I’ve got B her tea, I just grab her whatever is leftover in the fridge. I don’t always bother to heat it up, to be honest. How awful is that?

I realised recently that I hadn’t actually told her I loved for a good few weeks. Hmm, in fact, I can’t actually remember the last time I did. B just takes all my attention – I figured the other one would just be ok. But she wasn’t, and she isn’t. One day last week it all came to a head. I stopped and realised how much I needed to spend some proper time with her. It wasn’t long before I could see the crushing weight of my neglect. She was drowning in it. She was stressed, she was dehydrated and malnourished and more than anything, she needed a massive massive hug. She needed to know she was awesome.

You have a first child too, you know. And you’re most probably neglecting her too. She’s been around since way before you had children of your own. She’s inside you. She’s craving your attention and she needs to be loved. So be kind to her today – she’s more important than you realise.

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15 Comments

  • Reply
    themotherhub
    September 2, 2016 at 7:06 pm

    Oh my god was almost getting seriously worried there… So true though, you can’t pour from an empty cup as they say ! #brillblogposts

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      nomoreshoulds
      September 2, 2016 at 7:10 pm

      Ahhh sorry to scare you! I guess that was the point 😊 You’re right. Empty cups are no use at all. (*hobbles off to get some greens into her and give herself a hug*) thanks for reading! X

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    Iceskatie
    September 2, 2016 at 8:58 pm

    This is so brilliant Amy. It resonates with me so much!

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      nomoreshoulds
      September 2, 2016 at 9:26 pm

      Oh thank you so much Katie! What a lovely thing to say! xxx ps your username is AMAZING 😀

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    randommusings29
    September 3, 2016 at 12:18 am

    Haha, I totally got suckered in there! Brilliant 🙂
    Debbie

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    jobowery
    September 3, 2016 at 11:46 am

    I’m definitely guilty of neglecting my first child. Thanks for the reminder. #brillblogposts

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      nomoreshoulds
      September 3, 2016 at 3:53 pm

      Hi Jo! Thanks so much for the kind words. Hope you’re really well x

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      nomoreshoulds
      September 4, 2016 at 3:34 pm

      Yourself? 😊 xx

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    mamabearcollective
    September 4, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    Thanks for the reminder. I’m off to give my eldest a big hug and book in a mummy date x

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      nomoreshoulds
      September 4, 2016 at 3:34 pm

      As in a date with yourself I hope? 😊

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        mamabearcollective
        September 4, 2016 at 7:03 pm

        A LOVELY hot, uninterrupted bath with a book and a glass of wine 🙂 I think that was just the reminder I needed to be nice to myself 🙂

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    My Petit Canard
    September 4, 2016 at 11:09 pm

    Such a great way of getting an important point across, really great post! Emily #BrilliantBlogPosts

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      nomoreshoulds
      September 5, 2016 at 3:49 am

      Ah thank you Emily! Really kind of you to say 🙂 – thank you for reading.

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